As you are very much aware of this fact that people in relationships do get into conflicts at times. How can one bring peace to such a relationship with a lot of conflicts and arguments? Should we move away from such a relationship or stay put in that relationship?

Question - Gurudev, as you are very much aware of this fact that people in relationships do get into conflicts at times. How can one bring peace to such a relationship with a lot of conflicts and arguments? Should we move away from such a relationship or stay put in that relationship? 

Gurudev Sri Sri - There are 3 ways to handle such situations : 

1. Move away from that place at that time - because when everybody is angry, things are heating up, everyone goes deaf. Angry people do not listen to anyone. The best thing is move away a little bit and wait for things to cool down and then resolve the differences.

2. Be there, with patience - First, agree with the person, say, 'Yes, I agree with you. Suppose your husband or wife is arguing with you, don't say, 'No', instead say, 'Yes, you are right, I agree with you. The moment you agree, the temperature comes down. Then in a little gap, as the temperature comes down, say, 'But, this is the secret. Sometimes people come to me with big ideas. I tell them, 'Your idea is brilliant, very good, but it is impractical. Use your skill to calm the situation, and then get across what you want to the other person. 

3. You may be thinking of asking me if one should go for a divorce as a last resort if that is the situation of the relationship you are in? I would say No, not at all. But if your relationship comes to such a stage that it becomes difficult for both partners to continue ahead, if your lives become a living hell because of it, and if no amount of attempts can save your relationship, then I would ask both the partners to peacefully part ways and move ahead with their individual lives. 

But first both partners must give their 100% to make amends and improve the relationship before taking the decision to go for a divorce. One should understand that marriage is a commitment. Give your 100% to make the marriage work. If two people want to give happiness to each other, it will work, if two people want to get happiness from each other, it's going to break down.